Month: July 2019

Man Out

https://www.baltimoresun.com/…/bs-ed-op-0729-toxic-masculinity-20190729-db54m…

“What’s the matter with men?” This question and the attendant notion of “toxic masculinity” have been swirling around like a Category 5 cultural maelstrom, especially since the #MeToo movement began, with a new gust whirling in with the sickeningly sordid case of Jeffrey Epstein. To many feminist and progressive women and men, it all comes down to culture: Males have learned a set of beliefs and behaviors predicated on toughness, control, dominance, violence, and sexual prowess, and these are harmful to men and women.

            Riding to the rescue are many small, generally well-intentioned men’s groups. They preach the virtues of “healthy” or “progressive” masculinity and offer “training” workshops to wash away the evils of traditional masculinity. John Wayne will dismount and start singing “Kumbaya.”

            Misogyny and sexual harassment and assault obviously are horribly wrong, yet the underlying problems for millions of working class, poor, and struggling middle class American men do not stem whether they act more like the Terminator than Mr. Rogers. The real front-burner issues are declining wages and underemployment, poor physical and mental health, dwindling educational success, relative loss of status, fathers being able to connect with their children, mass incarceration, and powerlessness. Young men are less likely to hold jobs and more likely to be poor than before the Great Recession. Suicide is three and a half times more common among men than women, and men are twice as likely to die from opioid overdoses. About one-third of men between ages 15 and 64 live alone.

To be told that their big problem is “toxic masculinity” only provokes anger. In fact, considerable research has shown that decent work and wages, stable families, and civic engagement tend to reinforce more prosocial behavior among men. Presumably, just what progressives should want.

            Rather than their holier-than-thou haranguing—much like those who simplistically advocate for “family values”—what a huge number of men need are good jobs, economic security, better health, good schools and training, and hope. These would help men—and women and children—in very concrete ways. But they also would enable men to feel less need to prove their manhood in destructive ways and a greater ability to become involved fathers, as well as join a cultural milieu where the precepts of “healthy masculinity” can be the norm.

            With their over-emphasis on culture, many progressives sound more like Edmund Burke than social democrats. Don’t get me wrong: Culture is important, but culture is a complex web of multiple, interacting factors, including economic conditions, that influence beliefs and behavior. For example, low incomes and lack of hope batter countless men who grew up believing they would be “providers,” as the toxicity police rightly tell us. So, is the “traditional” masculine belief that men should be breadwinners or the fact that so many men live precariously, failing to win enough bread, the bigger problem?

            OK. I hear the rejoinders coming in like fast-approaching missiles.

            Rejoinder Number 1: There are “toxic” well-to-do men. Yes, but the most visible are from worlds where power and money are the coin of the realm. Think Wall Street, Washington, Hollywood. A notch below are sexist accountants and leering personal-injury lawyers, but this minority of men should be the first target for those trying to teach “healthy masculinity.”

            Rejoinder Number 2: Look at all those men pushing strollers and staying home to care for their kids, so the times must be a changin’. Yes, from the vantage point of many Washington think tanks or top universities where restaurants serve bottles of Dom Perignon for $1,000, it sure looks that way. Some data seem to back this up, as the ranks of at-home fathers have grown. Yet, less than one-fourth of at-home dads (or less than 1 million out 70-75 million fathers of minor children) are home to take care of their children.

            There is a lot of inside-the-bubble classism to these rejoinders. Kind of like the classism (and racism) that many saw in the Women’s Marches. I am tempted to say: Go out and see the rest of America!

            The progressive new-masculinity groups are hardly alone in making the socioeconomic plight of working-class and poor men a low priority. There has generally been a deafening silence among those on the right when it comes to advocating for genuine economic and educational opportunities and good health care for men (or anyone else) who needs help. Their big little lies are also founded on ideas that culture, not economics or power structures, are to blame: Their answer to “toxic masculinity” is “coastal elites.” (Exactly, where do most conservative intellectuals and commentators live—but that’s another story!)

            For those on the left—who too often pay little attention to culture in their analyses and policies—railing against “toxic masculinity” is unlikely to win many friends or carry much influence among most American men.  If attitudinal and behavioral change is the goal, tackling all manner of social and economic ills and improving men’s everyday lives has a better chance of changing men’s attitudes and behavior in the long run than preaching to them.

Andrew L. Yarrow, a former New York Times reporter and historian of post-World War II America, addresses these and related issues in his recent book, Man Out: Men on the Sidelines of American Life.

Man Out

A great New Yorker article on how Al Franken was railroaded out of the U.S. Senate. Agree or disagree with his politics, like or dislike his (to me brilliant) comedy, Franken is a decent man who had his career ruined by the excesses of the #MeToo movement. Women and men who know him and were there when the supposedly offensive incident occurred say the allegations against him were unsubstantiated.

https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2019/07/29/the-case-of-al-franken?utm_campaign=aud-dev&utm_source=nl&utm_brand=tny&utm_mailing=TNY_Daily_072219&utm_medium=email&bxid=5bd6701e2ddf9c619438ab0a&cndid=24743012&esrc=&utm_term=TNY_Daily

Man Out

This differential, for Americans born 65 years ago, increases sharply with age, as 65% of women born 80 years ago were alive in 2017 compared to 51% men of men. Hispanic men are more likely to be alive than non-Hispanic white men, who are more likely to be alive than black men.

While black men are less likely than white men to live to virtually all ages, black men are slightly more likely to be alive than white men at 100, but the sample sizes may be too small to draw conclusions.